We all want to be happy. It’s an emotion and a state of mind we simply cannot function without. It keeps us sane and continues to help develop our social, physical, spiritual and mental abilities. For something that is present at the core of our arrival into this world, it’s hard to understand how challenging it can be to maintain it. When we are born, simplicity is what attracts us. We are aware of our basic needs, and very rarely find interest in complicating life. We live on exactly what we need to be able to survive, and don’t let materialistic needs get in the way. And this makes us content, because we have everything we need to exist. But as we grow, we tend to forget that achieving happiness is a continuous process, which we must always practice from within.
Although many things can trigger this feeling of happiness, ultimately it will be consistent if and only when you are happy with your own self. Sure you can gain instant happiness, but the durable one, the most important kind comes from the self, from your inner source. To make this happen, you not only need to work at improving your state of mind, but to also appreciate who you are and what you stand for. From this, you will learn to respect your own self, which later on means that you will be completely content with who you are and this is something nobody can give to you, but yourself. Regardless of how many self-help books you read, or life coaches you pay, if you do not make the conscious decision to accept yourself, you will never be completely happy. Finding a balance between daily struggles and keeping a harmonious state can be difficult, and most of the time it requires patience and strength. But you can always give it a little push.
There have been and will continue to be times in your life when you will feel a little lost and begin to lose sight of the path you so clearly know and want to create. Even the strongest of people crumble at some point, because as we all know, life is not always a peaceful sea, but sometimes waves will come and shake us up. You can lose your balance and your way forward and this can be very scary. The adversities that you face are all part of the process so you can learn your lessons and reach beyond your greatest fears. So to get back up, you must try to shift your pattern of thought, explore different ways of living, make better lifestyle choices, join a gym, become part of new social groups, keeping a feelings diary and practice positive thinking. But of course these things will take time and often, all you need is an instant boost to give you that bit of hope that you can get out of the funk you are currently experiencing.
Keeping this mind, a few years back I thought of a new concept, that can be used by anybody. I have done this for a while and it truly is an eye opener.
THE WALL OF HAPPINESS
The wall of happiness is a concept where you add your happy moments, a place where you practice being grateful and allow yourself to become aware of all the great things that manifest in your life, whether they are small or big life changing moments. We function on such an automatic pattern of behavior, between our professional and personal life, that sometimes we simply forget to stop and actually see all the great things that comes to us. Creating your wall of happiness requires very little effort. Find an empty wall in your home, grab a set of post it notes and everyday, for the rest of the year add your post it note where you write about something that made you happy that day. It can be anything from receiving a compliment, all the traffic lights were green as you approached them, your partner served you breakfast in bed, you got a promotion at work, a stranger smiled at you etc. You can be as creative as you want because this is your own wall of happiness and you can add your spin to it. The only thing you must remember is that for the rest of the year, you must add a post it note everyday with something that brought a smile to your face.
Sometimes, when you are having a bit of a challenging day, you can fail to see when something good came to you. When you are stuck with a problem, all you see is just that and it can be hard to get out of your funk if that’s all you’re thinking about. The wall of happiness is there to reflect upon and to remind you that the universe is indeed created to have a balance and with everything negative there is a positive. You will learn to appreciate the small things that add value to your emotional state and to simply be in the moment. By documenting this, you will be able to gain insight into what brings you most happiness and it will also remind you that happiness is all around and that you still have it.
By having a wall of happiness, you will be reminded daily, that at some point during your day, every day, something brought joy to your life. Even if it was a silly joke your colleague told you, or that you got to sleep in an extra hour, bought yourself a new car or simply just had a bubble bath and relaxed; joy manifests itself differently for each and every one of us so whatever makes you happy, write it down, put the date on it and stick it on your new wall. One day, your wall will be full of happiness moments, and not just any happiness but your own. You will be able to look at it and see your life full of happiness.
" Never underestimate the power that you have within to change your life and make it a better one for you."