The truth about self-development

MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST

Every experience that we go through in life has some purpose to our overall self-development. Whether we consciously chose to resonate it or not, the point is that whatever happens, has already been. You don’t necessarily have to like it; you can even bury it deep within your unconscious. But to be able to move on with a clear overview of what’s to come, you have to make peace with it. The unconscious part of the mind is very powerful and it is here all memories are stored. The unconscious mind has a sneaky way of bringing up past memories from experiences when it believes we need to be reminded of these. If you have not yet accepted or made peace to these, it will continue to bring them forward until you do. I am a firm believer of living forwards and never looking back to progress however I cannot deny the importance of each of my past experiences. Pretty or not, they helped shape the person I am today. Through each one, there is a lesson unfolding and since I am a believer in the spiritual pathway of living, I acknowledge that these lessons are customized to each of our individual needs in order to move forward and unlock another layer of potential. So if you choose to look at every experience as a lesson you needed to experience at that particular point in time, you are making way for new opportunities to come for you. This is because you are clearing blockages that may have occurred when dealing with past difficult happenings. Making peace with your past, can help you understand just how strong you really are internally. And this strength will shift into helping you develop new exciting ways for what’s to come. 
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EXTERNAL RESOURCES WILL NOT FIX YOUR PROBLEMS

We live in an exciting time when almost everything is accessible to us at a click of a button. We can Google motivational speakers and watch  videos that will open our eyes to specific situations. We can read self-help books, read inspirational blogs, listen to podcasts. All of these however are resources to aid towards your self-development but they are not the solution to your problems. These external resources can help us understanding different ways in which we can gain our authentic power or climb the success ladder, but the only solution lies deep within us. It doesn’t matter how many books you read or Tony Robins videos you watch, if you are not there to learn and apply the lessons, whatever changes you are looking for, will not occur. The only way to resolving problems and to reach new heights personally is by making conscious decisions to use all the resources you have and apply them to the most suitable way for you. One of my mentors taught me this when I told him how excited I was to attend a seminar held by one of the world’s most successful motivational speakers. He said to me “Miriam, you only need to attend one of these events in your life. And then, you need to focus on how to apply everything you learnt and continue to do so.”  If you keep searching for the answers to your prayers by listening to others’ you will become a spectator with a mindset of a genius. However if you start taking action towards what you have learned from listening to others, you will become the genius of your own life. 

FACE THE DARKNESS 

It is a known fact the from darkness there will be light, because without the balance of the two, neither would exist. When you are serious about developing yourself from all aspects of your whole being, you are going to have to face certain parts of you that will seem dark. You have to get to know yourself completely, all sides. Nobody is perfect, we all have flaws and different side of the self even we don’t like. When I began my psychology studies, 10 years ago I was introduced to the mind, how it works and how our thoughts affect our lifestyle. Later on, when I moved onto my holistic medicine studies, I discovered an even deeper layer from the mind, and that was the soul. To know your soul, all work has to be internal. I began looking at myself from a soul’s perspective and then from a personality perspective, which included my mind. With this, I discovered certain behaviors about myself that I didn’t necessarily liked or wanted to accept at first. For example, I discovered that I am very impatient and looking back at some past situations, due to my impatience I missed out on certain opportunities. I discovered that one of the best love relationships I had ended due to my impatience taking a lead characteristic to my self. So I pushed too hard too quickly, which resulted in a very abrupt end to that relationship. This brought me heartache but what I later learned, was that this was simply created by me. Therefore I had to face this and learn to become more patient. It sounds easy to do so, but the journey to self-discovery is anything but easy.  It’s never fun to find out “flaws” about yourself, but there is a beauty in these. They are there to teach you something and if you are brave enough to do the work and apply yourself from a different light, the results are magical. 

THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE

With self-development, we learn a great deal about the true meaning of love and where it stems from. I believe we are all born with love in our souls, and this is something that we can choose to flourish from or ignore. But what I have learned is that the true meaning of love can only be discovered when you begin to love yourself. Only then you will be able to find out what it feels like to give love and receive love. Being able to love yourself through your achievements but also through your failures and mistakes, will strengthen the meaning of love. This teaches you to love others through their good and bad, without judgment. When we are judgmental, we are so only because we give judgment to our own self. Otherwise we would not know how to be judgmental or what its meaning is. So being able to love yourself without judgment will help you do so for others. When you are able to do this, you will realize that every human being you meet has their own soul and personality that comes from a place unknown to you and perhaps unknown to them. Therefore you will simply let them be for who they are and what they need to do to reach their truth. Focus on love as the main starting point and let everything else branch out from this feeling.
 
It’s not easy, but nothing about self-development is supposed to be easy. The best results always come from being placed in the middle of the most turbulent storms. Because only  when you face the difficulties and find a way to acknowledge the storm but also commit yourself to solutions on how to get to the rainbow that comes from it, you will achieve a true sense of who you are