Handling setbacks successfully

​I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying “When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. But do you really need to be tough in order to handle challenging situations? What does it even mean to be tough anyways? Do you have to be physically strong, mentally composed, push your emotions aside? Looking for a more instilled definition, oxforddictionaries.com defines tough as “strong enough to withstand adverse conditions or rough handling”. And whilst this is exactly an ideal characteristic we all want to have, it is more important to look at the process of acquiring this “strength” instead of making it a goal. You must give it a meaning for yourself, in which the way you react to circumstances is an authentic response.

Being able to withstand difficult or challenging situations is more about being able to understand the situation and why it’s challenging for you. Just like beauty is a perception, so are challenging situations. The way you look at something is exactly how it’s going to manifest itself to you. And how you respond to it, is exactly how you should in that moment in time. Every setback is a lesson, and the more you make the same mistake, the more the setbacks will come back.

I have met incredibly sensitive people, who are emotional and delicate but they can handle whatever life throws at them. Would you say they are tough? Only when you are able to master your emotions and to feel truthfully, you’ll be able to push through anything that comes your way. When you are one with your rational and emotional side, then you’ll find the completion that sets you up for freedom. For when you feel freely, and think independently, your true colors shine. Never chase money in the hopes of pursuing your full potential. Materialistic assets bring instant happiness, a buzz that yes is very beneficial at the time, but soon enough you’ll reach a period of slight confusion; because although money can buy you many things, it can never buy your soul and what you are here for.

Instead of focusing on becoming tough, spend your time getting to know yourself more. The more you do this, the more equipped you will become to face any battles that come your way. When you are your own best friend and are honest with yourself, you’ll find what you are looking for even in the most adverse circumstances.