I am a serial goal setter. Those who know me well enough, know that at the start of every new year I go to my local stationery store and buy a notebook. Its sole purpose is to be my guide for the year ahead. I use it wisely throughout the entire year, writing down my to do's for the year ahead, accomplishments, thoughts, feelings, new lessons, great books I read and will read. I have done this for a few years now and looking back through these books I can honestly say it is one of the most useful practices towards achievement. Whenever I refer back to them, I empower myself to do even better because I can see that all is possible. I even get a little bit creative and dedicate some pages to creating a mood board where I bring to life my words into pictures. I stick magazine cut outs that together form my story for the year ahead. Some may call this being childish, I call it knowing what I want and making it happen. Ever since I can remember, I have always been fascinated with the power of drive and motivation. Focusing on something for a long period of time will no doubt start to feel as though you already have it. So this little book is my magical gateway for emphasizing to myself that what I want I will no doubt have because I am already making it part of my life. I put the hard work in it and I embrace it.
The fault that many people make when setting goals is that they don't actually know what they want. They usually set goals that are completely influenced by others’ wants for them. For example, if somebody wants to do something they find interesting, you might immediately decide you want to do it as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being inspired by others’ dreams but what you want will only happen when your reality is congruent with your final destination from your goals. Looking back over the years, my goals were silly. At the time of course I thought they were the bees knees, that achieving all those things will make me feel good about myself and happy with my life. The problem with my goals is that they didn’t come from a deeper place, from my true hearts desires, but instead from the surface of being influenced by the environment around me. Every year I strived for certain things and sometimes they came to me, but most of the time they didn’t. The reason for this was that they were really not that important to me, they were important to others. And because I let myself get influenced, I gave in, only to later realize they weren’t my dreams to begin with. As I got older, I began focusing my attention inward, at myself as a whole being. Who am I, what do I really want and why do I want it? And then magic happened. From experience, I can say these next 7 principles are completely life changing if done right. They will lay out the foundation for you to see exactly what you are made of and how far you can go.
FIND YOUR INNER TRUTH
You may think this is some kind of hippie, la di da goal. No, this is the most important goal you should be focusing on. Without knowing your inner truth, you’re lost on this planet my friend; you are just living, without really being alive. This is not something that takes a day or two, it’s a process you consistently focus on as you go through life. Looking deep down at what’s really inside of you is not something done in a rush, and often times not very enjoyable to begin with. Finding your own self is a process that takes time and that should be done with gentleness and care. Your whole life you have been molded by what society told you to be, by what your friends advised you to see, by who your parents told you you are, by what your lover sees in you. But you are not only those things, you are you and the most important opinion of yourself is yours. You decide who you are based on what lies at the core of your heart and soul. Some people start meditating to awaken themselves from a life of dormant living, others leave everything behind and go travel the world to find that spark within them. Some people go to counseling to face the darkness they’ve tried to hide in the back of their mind for years, whilst others may find themselves by being in a relationship. Whatever it is that works for you, do it. My guess is that once you begin, you will see the results. My journey involved a lot of learning, reading, connecting with others, being surrounded by successful people, finding and learning from mentors, being observant of my actions and reactions, meditation, running. These things I have realized only later on how much value they bring to my life and how very much connected I am by practicing them. Whatever way you want to take, make it your focus to start knowing yourself better. The easiest way is to start writing down words you describe yourself with; then look in the mirror and do the same. As time goes by and the more practice you get in, you will soon get better at it and you will begin to see yourself in your true light.
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
Once you have identified your true essence, you must begin to express it. So many people wish they could say things they really mean, but a blockage inside stops them. You will see that by knowing your heart’s pure intent and your soul’s deepest wishes, you will feel more empowered than ever. For when you connect with who you truly are then you will see or make no further judgement upon yourself or others. The way you see others is simply a mirror of what is going on in your mind. But when your mind is at peace, you begin to see La vie en rose, a life trough rose tainted glasses. Saying no is not always a bad thing, because if something does not align with what is at your core, no is actually the expression of what you really want. Understand the importance of knowing that you have a voice and you can use it to speak your truth and to help others see theirs.
GET CLOSER TO FRIENDS, SAY GOODBYE TO FOES
This goal is so important I can’t stress enough on it. I remember when I was younger, I would accept people in my life because I thought I was supposed to. If some kid at my school who was popular wanted to hang out with me, I would say yes in a heartbeat. And even if this kid was mean to me or brought absolutely no value to my 10 minute school break, walking around the courtyard with the “cool” ones gave me some sense of empowerment. I thought what people saw was more important than what I saw. But as I grew older, I realized that time is more precious than ever and who you spend it with is vital. I began saying no to certain men who asked me out, and I would not go out of my way to visit somebody who was no longer in line with what I wanted out of life; not because I was better than them, but because the differences in our life’s mission were so far apart from one another that there would be no mutual understanding. In these moments, I also started expressing more love to those who brought positivity into my life, to those people who I felt good around and who empowered me and I them. Make it your mission to eliminate “toxic” people from your life. Nobody is toxic as such, it is just that your energies simply don’t match and when put together, the vibration that these energies create is one of turmoil and not peace. And since by now you’d know your truth, you will understand the importance of having peace in your life.
WELCOME FEAR IN YOUR LIFE
Let me tell you a secret about fear. It is really just your mind’s way of recognizing something you are not comfortable with. That’s it! Most people are afraid of heights not because something bad can happen when they are up high, but because they feel uncomfortable in that position because they are not in it often enough. Others fear not living life to their true potential, not because they cannot, but because they know that do so they will need to step out of what they have been doing so far which is comfort and trying something new which brings uncomfortable situation. Somebody wise once told me that the only way to beat fear at it is to simply acknowledge it. Image sitting down next to your fear, looking at it and simply accept that it’s there. Once you make peace with it, it will naturally go away. But if you try and refuse its arrival, it will test your limits further and extend its stay. Be less afraid of situations knowing that your fear is simply there to test how badly you want it. Your uncosncious mind is simply programmed to react to new situations so learn to break that pattern and get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
WORK SMARTER, NOT HARDER
I have met extremely successful people that are able to own several businesses, do what they love, spend time with their family, allocate time for their hobbies and focus on their health. I have also met people who drive themselves crazy with work, not focusing on any other aspect of their life. And whilst these people also have success, they don’t have wealth. To be truly wealthy, you have to be healthy, feel loved and give love. When these things align with your everyday life, you will be wealthy. Make it your goal to work smarter, not harder. Focus on your target, take the necessary steps and live life to your fullest potential. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean you don’t have to lose sleep sometimes, but it simply looks at what will you lose in the process. The most important thing to always keep in mind is that as long as you keep true to yourself, you will be successful in whatever it is that you want. Find out your strenghts, work on your weaknesses and become more proactive.
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS
We often fail to acknowledge the importance of respect and kindness. Being so stuck in our own world, we built so much self-control that we forget that we are actually part of a social consciousness, that everybody on this planet is somehow connected. By realizing this you can extend the vision of where you are going by making the journey more abundant. There is no point of being successful without having people around to share it with. When you are truly wealthy, you will feel loved and give love so always remember the how vital love is to our life. It all starts with intention, so know that if you mean to do good from your deepest inner source, then you will receive good, for what’s inside in us is all around us. Look beyond what you see and be kind. Never underestimate being kind for it will take you further than you think. The most purest form of happiness comes from a moment when what you do for others is completely out of good intention, with no expectation of return. When you help bring happiness and prosperity to somebody’s life, you spread that everywhere, including in your own.
REGAIN YOUR PHYSICAL STRENGHT
Exercise is a natural way of putting our physical state into movement. This is important to our existence, so that our organs are constantly being kept active to become stronger. By doing so, they are working to their true purpose and we develop a certain kind strength, not only physically but extends to emotionally, spiritually and mentally. When we exercise, we also give our brain the power to see beyond what it really knows, therefore pushing ourselves to the next level. Exercising can help you push through fear, because it takes you out of your comfort zone, of what you thought you could do. Going for a nap to get rid of your headache is so much easier than getting out of bed and going for a long power walk. But once you do you realize that all those thoughts you had were distractions because you feel better and happier. This is because you pushed through what scared you and what felt good, for something that was going to challenge you and help you grow. So make time to exercise not to lose weight only, or to tone up your body, but because it will expose you to a new kind of situation and you will learn to become more fearless.
If you can master the above 7 principles, I am pretty sure you can achieve everything you want to. Always remember to go back to your source and understand fully your inner truth, to speak what resonates from within and to push through the uncomfortable. There’s a sea of opportunities that lay ahead you every single moment, and just as the waves bring the tide in and out, you yourself can create a flow of consistent abundance in your life.
Have you ever felt that deep burning desire within you to do something great? You felt it everywhere, in your bones, in your flesh; your mind would be pumping with ideas of what you could do, your heart would beat faster because you know how it would feel to be amazing at something, to create, to elevate! Have you ever felt that?
My guess is you have. Everybody in this world is born to fulfill a purpose. And life is all about finding our purpose. Some people are lucky enough to do so earlier, whilst others have to go through their journey deeper to truly understand what they are meant to be doing. The point is that we all have at least one unique gift or talent that belongs to us only. It is an important part of our existence. The good news is that we can develop our potential pretty early on in life. The bad news is that not all of us use it further on.
So many people have all the right tools to succeed in life, but they just don't know how to use them. Their strenght turns into an uncontrollable weakness where they are no longer feeling in control of their own lives. All that they once thought they could do, feels like a long lost dream. But the tools will always be there and it's a matter of breaking your liming belief patterns and making way for the unknown. You have to learn to trust yourself enough to know you can accomplish anything you want to.
FOCUS ON YOUR TARGET
Now the real work begins. How do I get to where I want to be? This is the moment when you should start thinking about what exactly you want to do and where you want to end up. This is what separates the world’s greatest from the rest. They figure out pretty quickly what they are good at and start visualising how to get even better at it. The first most important step towards greateness is to discover what you are good at and how you can get even better at it. How you do this is by beginning to focus on where you want to be and then assess how your skills and talents can be used to take you there. You have acknowledged that you are capable of achieving it, so how far do you want to take it? Visualising your end result is like finding that key that unlocks the main door to unleashing your potential. Picture the setting, feel it as if you already have it, know what it looks like, even give it a smell. Train your unconscious mind to start working for it. Look at point B (where you want to be) and then see point A (where you are now). If there were no external factors, how would you get there? What are main steps you would take?
BE FEARLESS IN YOUR EXECUTION
Once you’ve established your destination, you must be fearless in your execution. You can do this by keeping your vision every moment of everyday and take small steps towards it. Let yourself become more empowered by starting to live your desires. Be fearless in how you get there, if it was easy everyone would be there already. Fear is simply a state where your brain recognises a new situation that could potentially feel uncomfortable at first. Remember, there is a reason why some people get to their success whilst others stop before the finish line. Whatever comes their way, they push through because all they see is their target. This fearlessness should come to you naturally if you do your visualizing work correctly. If you imagined point B long enough, you will have developed a complete unstopable force to get there. And whatever comes in your way, just take a moment and know it's not a road block, but simply a temporary pause you need to overcome. Find your real power, and once you do that, nothing can stop you.
HAVE FUN IN THE PROCESS
The great Steve Jobs once said that “You have to have a lot of passion for what you are doing because it is so hard, any rational person would give up”. You must be completely passionate about your goal and where you want to end up, because without that, you may be setting yourself up for failure. With passion, there comes enjoyment. There will be moments where your fearlesness will give in so you’ll need to find ways to keep pushing through. Fun is very important. You need to understand that it is as much about the journey as it is about the destination. Those steps you need to take in order to get to where you want to get to are what make it so worthwile. You won’t realise it at the beginning of your journey, but those steps will make you grow stronger, make your vision even bigger and they will open new opportunities for you to give you even more to focus on. Enjoy the process, learn from the failures and remember to laugh and keep positive.
We have finally reached a day and age when women can freely choose their own path in life. If you want to be a stay at home wife, it's still ok to do so; if you are set on being an explorer and want to travel the world, it's all yours to take on; and if you want to have a career and develop professionally, it is finally accepted. The reason why Sex and the City has been so popular (apart from the fashion inspiration) is because the four characters portrayed the independence most of us women strive for. The characters were likeable and relatable.
I've always had my heart set on being a career woman. When my school friends would discuss their dreams of meeting prince charming, I was too busy visualising what it would one day be like to have my own office, create business deals and attend conferences. I would definitely be more of a Miranda mixed with a little bit of Carrie. I have never really devoted too much of my time to finding love. My journey is guiding me towards what I need to achieve in life and fulfil my purpose, which has always been to be professionally established and personally self-aware. Looking back to my younger self, I have never really stopped dreaming about finding success. It just never occurred to me that this is even an option. Dreaming BIG has never really been an issue and hard work rarely stopped me. Ambition and drive from within have always pushed me and continue to do so.
The steps to victory can sometimes feel unattainable and fear of failure can definitely influence us towards it. But realizing that you can accomplish your ideas and goals is the first and most important thing you must always remember. Once you figured out a way to express in actions what your are mentally visualizing, you are on your way. Very few people have been priviledged enough to do what they love and not having had to put any hard work towards it. If you don't struggle, it will never feel completely real. Part of being succesfull is about overcoming the obstacles which once tried to get in your way. Defeating stress, anxiety, fear and self-doubt already make you a winner. The journey you take towards where you want to end up is the true meaning of success.
Here are the three key things successful women have learned to master:
1. Be confident in your own abilities
A successful woman is aware of what she knows, and what she doesn't, she will learn. She is comfortable with herself to explore new things, knowing that she has the ability to succeed at everything she does. People who want to do well in life, know it's important to believe in themselves. Confidence comes with life experience, from a lot of hard work, developing different skills and learning new things which will all aid towards victory. If you trust that you have what it takes, you most likely do and are able to put this into practice in the best possible way. As Henry For once said: "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right!".
2. No FOMO
Fear of missing out is a factor that many women let themselves distracted by. Whilst sometimes we want to be part of all the fun, at some point we do need to make a decision towards what will be more valuable for our self-development. Ask yourself, what is more important to you? Is it joining others on their journey or is it about creating your own? This doesn't mean you have to ignore your friends, you just have to create some balance in your life so that it allows you to stay focused on what you want. If you are working towards something that will get you closer to the BIG picture, then you are not really missing out on anything. If fact you are probably doing exactly what you are supposed to in that particular moment in time.
3. Keep your head down
Whilst confidence and self-assurance are both vital characteristics towards success, so is modesty. Pride will get you nowhere and arrogance will eventually get in the way of your overall success destination. Of course you have to appreciate what you accomplish and give yourself a pat on the back for all your hard work, but remember to stay humble. Share your success with the world and if you can inspire others that's even better, but don't let it get to your head. There is always space for improvement, no matter how successful you have become. We can never know too much especially in a world where everything changes constantly. Stay on top of your game and don't get distracted by constantly boosting your amazing abilities. Richard Branson once said that you must always celebrate your success but with that, you should always up your game and push yourself even further. Stay focused, be fearless and have fun whilst you're doing it.
We all have have our own goals in life. They simply drive us towards living each day for a bigger purpose. I bet majority of you don’t even realize that you achieve some of your goals daily. For example, you get out of bed every morning to go to work- that’s an achievement in itself. Sometimes we fail to recognize this because some behaviors become automatic and we forget to place importance of them. So we can establish that achieving goals is possible. Lets take in consideration goals on a wider and more specific scale. How do you set them and most importantly how to accomplish them?
Have a clear vision of where it is you want to be
The most important part of goal setting is actually finding what it is that you really want. For this to work, you have to be very specific of what the goal actually is. It is not enough to say “I want to be healthy”. Firstly, to be healthy is a state and not an goal. Some people are healthy without even putting much effort towards it – it is a state, a feeling of being. So ask yourself, what specifically about being healthy do you want to be? Are you planning on running a marathon therefore requiring to work towards your fitness levels? Do you have a specific health problem you want to overcome? You need to give your unconscious mind a very clear idea of what it is that you want to achieve in order for it to work towards it.
Plan of action
Once you have established your goal, you need to set in motion a plan of action. How is it that you are going to accomplish this? What do you need to make this happen and what steps do you have to take? Do you have to sign up to a gym to begin working on your fitness to grow your fitness levels to run that marathon? If you want a specific career, would you need to take on a course to gain the skills needed? What are the skills you need to get to where you want to get? Identify all the steps that will bring you to the finish line. If you have no clue on what these are, find somebody who has already achieved it. This could be a person you may already know, or could be a celebrity or somebody you can research online. Learn about their journey and how they got there. When we feel uninspired, the easiest way to combat this is to look outside of our own box/mind and seek further motivation.
Give yourself a deadline
This may be hard at first, but if you have taken the above steps to learn more about your journey towards your success, then you should have an idea on timing. Set a deadline of when it is you want to obtain your goal. Taking the marathon example, that may be a little bit easier to figure out because you have a specific date of the event. But if your goal is to be in a specific career, or travel to a place, or complete a project, you need to make the work and set yourself a timeline. Looking at all the skills you will have to gain and the steps you need to take, calculate in your mind how long roughly will this take? How long do you want it to take you? When would you be able to finish all the above and are ready to achieve this? If you still get confused, using special calendar dates such as your birthday, Christmas, New Years, bank holiday weekends etc might motivate you further.
Be in control
The most important thing by far that I have learnt in achieving my goals is that I need to be in control of the outcome. There is absolutely no point setting a goal which requires an external input from somebody else. Why? Simply because you cannot control their decisions, time, thought process, etc. So, to achieve something, you must be in control of it 100%, at all times. That way, you are only depending on yourself to make things happen. You don’t have the time and right to involve somebody in your own desires. To get what you want, you have to be the only one who can make it happen. So, if you say “I want work for a specific company”, you have to ask yourself. Am I 100% responsible for making this happen or would I need to rely on another person’s decision towards it? What role do I want to have in this company and do I have the right qualifications for it? If there is somebody else involved in the outcome of your goal, change it so that it becomes in your domination. Only you can discipline yourself towards your desired outcome. Looking at the above goal, you will probably have to rely on somebody to hire you. Are you the right fit for the company? Do you have the necessary skills to work there? Are you in an environment which allows you to work for this company- or are they in a different city/country? Do they have a position available for the role you want? So instead, you could say “I want to gain the skills required to become a financial director (for example, here you would put the role you want). See how it changes? Now you are responsible and have a clear vision of what you need to get done for making it possible.
Bring your goal to life
It is not enough to tell yourself what you want. As with everything else in life, practice makes perfect (well that’s the saying although perfection cannot be truly measured therefore it does not exist). Ask yourself what will you feel once you accomplish your goal? Where will you be? Who will you be with? How will this impact your life? Give yourself the fairness of actually living as if this has already happened so that you are aware of what it will be like when it does happen. Something that I find really helps is writing your goals down and every morning, when you wake up before you do anything else, take your list and read each goal out loud. Do this every morning until it is so fixed in your mind that you know 100% that you are going to get there by your deadine.
And remember, everything you want is within your reach. You just need a really good strategy behind it and make it happen.
We all look up to certain individuals for inspiration. The people who have been there and done that are those who can motivate us to continue on our chosen path towards great success. We learn from their failures and successes and it is them who can help us keep the motivation going even during the times when perhaps we feel like there is no hope. "Everybody wants to be successful until they know what it takes". We all want to be achievers, to innovate, to create, to be known and ultimately to succeed. But the price we pay for success can be much higher than what we expected to bargain for. Success is not something that gets handed to us on a silver platter, but in most cases it is the opposite. Behind all the great victories, there is a story of hardship and maybe even some darkness. Some people look at high achievers and think “This person is so lucky, I wish I could do that”. Well entrepreneurs have good news for us. You can actually do it, but are you prepared to do all that it takes?
What separates successful entrepreneurs from the rest is that they actually make things happen by taking risks, by believing in themselves and their vision and by continuing to do so regardless how many times they fail. Their passion and desire to succeed is simply something they are not willing to compromise.
Below is a list including 5 of my favorite entrepreneurs from which I have learned some valuable lessons from:
“If you don’t give up, you still have a chance. Giving up is the biggest failure” Jack Ma
Jack Ma is living proof that pushing through failure can ultimately bring success. I learned more about him last year when I was doing some research for an article about successful business people. I remember reading about his story and I instantly felt inspired. I began watching some of his Youtube clips thinking this man is absolutely brilliant. Regardless of how much money he is worth, he is extremely humble, a trait I appreciate in people and one that is apparent in all the people that inspire me. The Alibaba Group founder has completely helped me understand that failure is absolutely necessary in life, and that no matter what, you have to keep going. His story begins when he applied for 30 different jobs and was rejected from all of them. He said that when KFC was introduced in China, 24 people went for the job and 23 people got it, he didn't. He tried to get into the police force, 5 people went for the job, 4 got accepted, he didn't. He applied for Harvard 10 times and got rejected 10 times. You'd think all these failures would knock his confidence down...but it didn't and instead he saw all these no’s as motivation to keep going. Ma refers to skeptics as an opportunity. He affirms that whatever idea you might have, if you believe in it and others don't that is actually a positive because then you get a chance to prove them you can do it and that's how you change the world. He is also a philanthropist and always speaks about the importance of inspiring the young generation.
“People with passion can change the world” Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs is considered the father of digital revolution and an innovator, I consider him to be one of the greatest minds of all time. He is the man behind the world’s most beautiful technological devices, the famous Apple brand. There are many inspiring qualities about him, my favourite including the ability to know what people want before they actually know what they want. Mr Jobs always believed that passion is one of the most important things to have in order to be successful. I watched one of his interviews in which he spoke about how people at Apple all share the same excitement about the product and its future. Jobs admitted that one of his bigger mistakes during his career was to hire highly knowledgeable management staff, which he ended up having to let them go because they simply had no passion. But what's great about entrepreneurs is that they learn from their mistakes and usually they don't make the same mistake twice. What I learned from Mr Jobs is that in order to be great at something you have to love it, and with that comes passion which in turn pushes us through with perseverance to achieve, and enjoy the journey.
"Screw it, just do it" Richard Branson
I’m pretty sure Mr Branson is one of the world’s most liked entrepreneurs. I follow his inspirational updates on LinkedIn in which he always puts so much positivity. He is a very down to earth man who was not afraid to believe in his ideas and bring them to life. Richard Branson gives back to the community by being involved with charity and by helping the future generation of entrepreneurs get started in the quest to live their dream. A marathon runner and fitness enthusiast, Mr Branson always speaks about the importance of being fit and healthy and enjoying every moment in life. His motto is simple: Screw it, just do it. He even wrote a book holding this title, in which he takes the reader on a journey from the beginning until his current success. The Virgin Group founder sees great opportunities and nurtures those ideas that can really make a difference. He listens to his own intuition and if something sounds promising, regardless of potential obstacles and risks, well you know what he’s going to say: Screw it, let’s do it.
"Success is a continual journey with a never ending destination" Rob Hill
Rob Hill is the founder of UK based events company The Eventa Group. I was blessed enough to have him as my boss and mentor for over 2 years, a time which completely changed my professional life. It is here where I found a new passion for the business world. Working along side a successful entrepreneur, you learn that anything is possible if you just believe you can do it. Having worked with Rob, I learned how to always be curious and learn new things, to keep humble and to always strive for more. He credits the success of his business to hard work and the ability to never panic, regardless what obstacles may interfere. He sees success as a continual journey because there is always space for new ideas to flourish. In business, there will always be competition who can at times be stronger, but consistency is what keeps you going. And behind this consistency lies determination and a strong hunger to always be better and achieve more.
"Eric Thomas- Change your mindset to match what you want to achieve"
As one of the world’s most inspiring public speakers, Eric Thomas definitely didn’t have it easy whilst starting out. Coming from a poor background and being homeless for 2 years living on the streets in Detroit, the odds were against him. But Thomas never stopped believing that the grass can be greener if you just take a step towards it; and so he did. He is now the motivation behind many successful people, including Lebron James who spoke publicly of Thomas as one of his inspirations during his 2012 NBA success. I had the pleasure of meeting him at one of his workshops and spent some time with him after the show to go through some questions and more one on one motivation. I can say that his passion is contagious, he definitely practices what he preaches. That was an amazing experience that completely opened my eyes more. Eric Thomas is a tough one to hear because he speaks the truth and leaves no place for sugar coating, but for those who are serious about making a change in their lives for the better, this is the exact truth they need to hear in order to move on forward. Thomas continues to inspire many people worldwide, having founded a business promoting education and coaching to under privileged youngsters. A true inspiration, Thomas shows us that no matter where you are at this point if your life and how hard it all may seem, changing your mindset to push through is the only way.
There is absolutely no doubt that everybody in this world can reach the success they desire. We all possess the strongest, most important tool and that is our brain. If we learn to use it wisely it's only a matter of time before our desired outcome will manifest itself.
When the job you think you want to do is the only thing that defines you, it’s time to explore your self more.
We are all here to find our purpose. Some people can identify this at an earlier stage in their lives, whilst some take a while longer. People who get it quicker, are those who really know themselves. They know what they are good at, they have hobbies, and they have a healthy life balance between their social and their professional life. Time is really not that important as long as you can get to it at some point. It can be hard to know what to do with your life if you have not looked at yourself from a bigger picture point of view. No matter who you are, where you come from, how old you are, what shape and size you are or what color your skin is, everybody has a deep desire to do something they love and to succeed at it. We all have dreams and aspirations and the road to make these happen is a little longer, or maybe slightly bumpier for some than the others; but always within your reach!
WHAT ARE YOU GOOD AT?
This question can be extremely daunting for some people but let me tell you something. Everybody is good at something. Regardless what this is, you have to know that you are really, really good at something. You might not know what yet, but it’s there inside of you waiting to manifest itself. All you need to do is take a look back at your life and see what you have achieved so far. Take your academic achievements, your life experiences, the different jobs you had, the different situations you faced and how you dealt with these. Identify your practicality. Are you somebody who likes to be creative and make things from scratch? What did you study? What have you learned from each of your life experiences so far? Are you a more of an ideas person or a do you like to follow instructions? What skills do you have? Everything that you have experienced in your life so far has been because you chose to do so. Even though you may not agree now, look back at these experiences and see that you were the one who actually chose to make things happen the way they did. Yes life throws curve balls at us, or opens new exciting ventures, but you were the one who made the conscious choice to go ahead and do it. So take a moment to reflect at all these past situations and find our who you are from a practical point of you.
WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIES?
Yet another difficult question for some people. Let’s just make something very clear. Your job is not a hobby. Your academic achievements are not a hobby (unless you study something out of pleasure and not because you have to). Spending time with your family and friends is not one either. Often when we are asked this question, we answer with the above examples because we believe that doing something and spending our time on it is what it means. A hobby is something that is part of you, the much deeper part of you. This opens up your creative side. Even the most analytical, strategic people who don’t consider themselves creative do in fact have a lot of creativity inside of them. If you are struggling to identify your hobbies, think of this. What do you love doing that gives you personal satisfaction and helps you develop yourself as a being? Think about who you are and what you love doing for yourself. Very often hobbies don’t include other people because they are all about you, about your inner self. I like to bake, I love to write, I enjoy learning about astrology and running/physical exercise. These are the activities that I do for myself and nobody else. They give me personal satisfaction and emotional growth because they open up my creativity channels and take me away from my daily routine. I don’t share these with anybody else; I do them solely for me (I do however share the cakes I bake with others). How can hobbies help you identify what you want to do in life? Again, they bring out your creative self and this is a very powerful part of you. I may not be an amazing baker, but I truly enjoy it. And whilst I will not become a professional baker, it actually taught me that I am good at putting things together and creating something from scratch. I don’t particularly enjoy following set guides and instructions, but following recipes taught me that I am a patient person. I may not become a published author, but writing teaches me that I enjoy helping others in a creative way. I will also probably not become a professional athlete, but running teaches me that I have a lot of discipline and drive. You get the idea…. Look at what you love doing and see why you enjoy it so much. Then put that on paper and create a map of your professional self.
ARE YOU A GO-GETTER OR A DOER?
Let me just start by saying that both of these are extremely important qualities in a person and we all have both, but one is usually more dominant than the other. A doer is no less than a go-getter and a go-getter is not superior to a doer. Both are needed to get things done. What can you identify with the most? Are you the type of person who is very self-efficient? Can you just get on with things without having somebody guide you? Are you a self-motivator? Do you get out of bed each morning and organize your day, knowing exactly what you will accomplish and how you will make this happen? Are you willing to take risks to achieve your ultimate goal? If this is you, then you might have more of the qualities a go-getter has. You are the ideas person, the one who comes up with a concept, who often sees the bigger picture. You know there will be obstacles, but you are willing to take a risk because you are confident in your abilities and you have a very clear picture of the ultimate outcome.
On the other hand, do you enjoy following a set of instructions? Are you seeking inspiration from others to encourage you? Do you enjoy praise and reassurance from somebody else to help you understand that you are doing the right thing? Are you a team player who likes to have the coach create a strategy? Are you the person who takes situations step by step to accomplish the big picture given by somebody else? If so, you might be more of a doer. This doesn’t mean you are lost on your own, it means that you enjoy having somebody there to always learn from, it may mean that although you are not the one who comes up with the idea, you are the one who helps make it happen. These two characteristics can really help you identify where you want to be as a professional. Are you aspiring to be more of a leader and inspire/guide others or do you thrive on being somebody who helps others make things happen? Think about it and see where this would fit within a career.
If you have reached this point, congratulations, it means you are pretty eager to get yourself on the right path for you. Remember to listen to your inner self and let your intuition guide you. Stay focused on your own path and allow your creativity to manifest itself so you can reach your success.