I’ve recently discovered that there’s a new epidemic affecting a big part of the world’s population. Although it’s been apparent since ancient times, it is now spreading faster than ever. What’s more concerning is the fact that it’s extremely contagious, and you can actually catch it in many different ways, whether you are in the vicinity of somebody who has it or just know somebody with it. We all have a level of vulnerability towards it, but some people just choose to feed it into becoming part of their everyday life. It’s called COMPLAINING. I’m sure you’ve all heard of it, in fact I’m 100% certain you have been or are currently suffering from it. Jokes aside, complaining is seriously very similar to a disease. It can affect the way you think, your physical abilities, your emotional stability, it can even bring upon other more serious illnesses if you continue living with the negative vibes.
The problem with complaining is that the more you do it, the more it starts to affect you.
Let’s get something straight here; life is certainly not always peachy, but there is always a way to make it so. It baffles me that so many people out there, who have so much going on for them, choose to complain. They moan about the amount of hours they put into their work; they bitch about others’ successes and complain about their own failures; they devalue who they are by continuously choosing to associate everything they talk about with some form of negative connotation. They live in a victimized system, where they develop a “Poor me” mentality, which they believe the more they do, the more they will receive; and that they will, but it’s not going to be the good stuff.
There’s 3 important things you need to know about it:
Nobody actually cares about your complaining
If you have somebody who listens to your moaning, first of all you need to be grateful. Because trust me, nobody wants to actually hear “poor me, my life is this, why can’t I have that instead”. The reason for this is that most people have their own complaints to deal with and also, the way they perceive what you are saying is almost always a little bit different to what you actually mean. Whilst receiving comfort in times of need is nice, encouraging your complaining is not. There is a sad side to this and that is that often people feel much better about themselves when you complain about something. Learn to switch from being a victim, to becoming a warrior. Channel your inner Beyonce if need be and play “Who runs the world” on repeat, go for a run and let it out that way, watch a funny comedy, read a book, write your thoughts down, but never put it out there in a vocal manner. You will never be able to grow or get better if you continue doing it. Also, the more you do it around others, the more it affects them. You have no right to impose such behaviours onto them, just as they shouldn't do so with you.
If you want something, stop complaining and start doing it
It amuses me slightly when people complain about having to do something in order to get what they want. Really, well of course you do! Nothing in life is handed to us on a silver platter nor it should be. If things would be that easy to get, there wouldn’t be great innovators out there and successful entrepreneurs who are living proof that anything is possible. All great ideas come from moments of clarity after stormy days. Most successful people have seen the darkness so far down the tunnel that they reached a whole different level of light that inspired them. If you want to achieve, to accomplish, to be great, YOU HAVE TO WANT TO GET THEM first. If the desire is there, the results will come. Because if you truly want something, you wont have time to complain about it. Every moment will spent wisely on how you can get closer to your goal. Complaining is simply not an option.
Accept what is but do something about it
Seeking acceptance from others has somehow become more important than accepting yourself the way you are. Too many people focus on what others think of them, instead of looking inwardly. The reason for this is very clear and that is because when you look inward, you’ll discover things about yourself you may not like. This is hard to take on, and it takes hard work to face your own skeletons. But trust me, you are the only validation you need. And if you only knew how important this is, you would not even need to complain about anything. When you become at peace with who you are and work on yourself towards the person you want to become, you’ll start living differently. You will begin to take control of your life, which pushes you outside of the victim role, and complaining will no longer be necessary.
It’s not easy to change bad habits and complaining certainly is one of the worst. But know that with time invested in yourself, and doing the things you are good at and you love, complaining will go away. Because the more you start living with authenticity and take control of your own life, doors will start opening for you. Don’t settle for average when you could be great.